When I found the Leather Hogtie on SexToy.Com I imagined using them with my Axovus Wrist Cuffs and matching Ankle Cuffs. I imagined a great way to tie someone up and fuck them. I imagined that was what I would be doing with this hogtie strap, but I was wrong. It was completely my fault that I was wrong, but I was wrong.

First, a little of the hogtie device itself. It’s really a very basic restraint device. It’s an O-ring with four strips of leather attached that have scissor snaps attached to them, making it so you can attach the hogtie device to four other things. It’s intended to be attached to four cuffs: two wrist, two ankle, to produce the hogtie position.

According to Wikipedia, Hogtie is “a method of tying the limbs together, rendering the subject immobile and helpless. Originally, it was applied to pigs (hence the name) and other young four-legged animals. In more recent years, the term has been applied to ways of restraining humans as well.” It can be accompanied by a gag or blindfold to enhance the helplessness of the situation, and the bottom could be left alone with little chance to escape.

The hogtie position is predicament bondage, not sex bondage like I was originally thinking. The position is just not good at all for sex, and I’m honestly not sure why I originally thought it was. I was just misguided or assumed it would lend itself to sex without really thinking about it.

I suppose for some sex would work in this position, depending on how wide you can spread your legs, but that would have to be almost all the way to get a comfortable position, so unless you’re extremely flexible it probably won’t work. Oral sex is possible in this position, however, and the bottom could be rolled on their side for cock play (should the bottom be male) or possibly fingering for the female, but no full on sex because it’s difficult to get at any orifices.

So, the reason why I got this device has failed me. If you are wanting a good device for sex bondage, this is not it.

However, it’s great for it’s original purpose: predicament bondage. It’s difficult to get out of while also being extremely simple and not terribly uncomfortable. How comfortable it is also depends highly on how flexible you are, but I’m not terribly flexible and it was pretty comfy for me.

Overall, if you want a fun and easy way to bind your partner, or be bound by your partner, I’d highly recommend it, assuming you have cuffs to clip it to (though they also have a Leather Hogtie with Four Rings which is meant for rope bondage play). If you are wanting something for sex, like I was, this is not for you.

You can find the Leather Hogtie along with other BDSM and Fetish Toys and sex toys of every flavor on SexToy.Com.

Much thanks to SexToy.Com for letting me review the Leather Hogtie!

Find these Axovus Wrist Cuffs and matching Ankle Cuffs (my review of the ankle cuffs) along with other BDSM and Fetish Toys and sex toys of every flavor on SexToy.Com.

Much thanks to SexToy.Com for letting me review the Axovus Wrist Cuffs!

Cute, femme, and flirty, the Pink & Black Beaded Nipple Clamps bring a bit of class to standard tweezer-clamp style nipple clamps. Easy to use from soft and pleasurable to wicked and painful.

Thank you very much to Tabu Toys sex toys for allowing me to review these Pink & Black Beaded Nipple Clamps!

One thing I’ve noticed, too, that I forgot to mention is that a lot of people shy away from canes because they can be very wicked. The nice thing about canes is that they can produce a range of sensation, they don’t have to just be used for hard blows. I mentioned the range of sensation a bit regarding the diameter differences, but also depending on where and how hard they are used the sensation can range from light to horrible.

While many people think they don’t like canes, I challenge anyone who enjoys pain play and/or impact play to try them (since they are so darned cheap too) and play around with the sensations and intensity of the toy. I believe most people would enjoy them if they just played around with them a bit.

Find the 1/4x20in Red Acrylic Cane (also in black, purple, blue, or green) along with other BDSM and Fetish Toys and sex toys of every flavor on SexToy.Com.

Also mentioned:
3/8x30in Red Acrylic Cane which also comes in black, purple, blue, or green (you can read my review here.)
3/8x24in Red Acrylic Cane also in black, purple, blue, and green

Much thanks to SexToy.Com for letting me review the 1/4x20in Red Acrylic Cane!

Note: I can’t find my card reader for my camera, but once I do I will have a custom picture up, not the stock photo.

I love canes. No, really. I mean, I often hate them as well, especially while they are being used, but I think they (can) feel great, look super sexy, and leave the prettiest marks and bruises of any impact play implement. So, when looking around at the various BDSM and Fetish Products on SexToy.Com I was instantly attracted to this gorgeous (and extremely affordable) acrylic cane.

Cane’s aren’t usually very expensive, but can range from next to nothing to around $25 or $30 at the maximum depending on material. I don’t think I’ve seen a cane for more than $30, though I could be wrong. They can be used lightly for more of a not too painful burning sensation, or up to a harsh sharp sting depending on the type and force of the blow. They are often scary to some, who associate canes with extreme pain, and while they can produce that if desired they can also be a wonderful (and inexpensive) addition to any toybox.

I have wanted an acrylic cane for a long time, mostly because I think they are absolutely gorgeous. I’m a color coordinator by nature, and I love to have all colors matching, including my toys to my restraints/rope/cuffs, clothes/lingerie, and etc. so acrylic canes are perfect for that. They are also just pretty in general, and prettier (I think) than natural canes, which is the other kind of cane we have.

The first cane we bought is rattan (I think) and the same shape as this one. It’s thicker than my new acrylic cane, but about the same length, 30 inches long. I find the length to be perfect, not too long to be annoying but long enough to get some nice good swings. The red acrylic cane is a lot more bendable than the other cane I have, and also stings more both because of it’s bendability as well as being thinner in diameter. The thinner the cane the more sting it produces.

Because it’s stingier that didn’t wholly endear it to me. I prefer my canings to burn more than sting, it’s a slight difference but definitely important. Although the way a cane is used also greatly impacts the type of sensation received, and this cane is easy to produce many different kinds of sensation with. I’m planning on getting the 1/4x20in Red Acrylic Cane to compare and contrast as well.

Find the Red Acrylic Cane along with other BDSM and Fetish Products and sex toys of every flavor on SexToy.Com.

Much thanks to SexToy.Com for letting me review the 3/8x30in Red Acrylic Cane!

The wonderful people over at PinkCherry.Com were nice enough to send me a number of kinky items to compare and contrast with each other. They also sent me two of each of these items to give away on Pleasurists, and that contest will come out soon so keep your eye out!

Each of these items are quite affordable, all under $15 on PinkCherry.Com. With sex toys, usually you get what you pay for, so the more you pay the higher the quality, and for the most part that’s true. These items are not heavy duty leather, nor do they have fancy bells and whistles, however they all do exactly what they are meant to do while being very affordable and fun to use.

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Japanese Love Rope

This purple Japanese Love Rope is very basic. It comes with finished edges and has a little 16-page booklet included with it as well which has a lot of great basic rope safety information as well as a few ties within it. The rope itself is a gorgeous purple color and is very soft and feels nice against the skin, though it could easily leave pretty rope marks as well. It is 3 meters or 10 feet long.

Onyx and I have played with the rope a few times, it is great for a few of the ties in the Two Knotty Boys book, mostly basic wrist and ankle ties since it is not terribly long. It is wonderfully smooth and the purple color is simply gorgeous against the skin.

Taboo Kinky Cuffs

These Taboo Kinky Cuffs are fun and easy to use. What I like most about them is that they are made out of neoprene, which is made to use wetsuits and is 100% water friendly (so says the back of the package). They velcro to close and easily fit both large and small wrists and they are strong and very easy to use.

As you can see from the image, they say “Don’t Stop” on them, so they’re a little campy and fun, not strictly serious, though the writing is easy to ignore as well. They would be fun as a kind of gag gift or a gift to someone who takes things a little too seriously and you might want to bring a little levity to.

These also have a “sister product” which are also called Taboo Kinky Cuffs but these say Spank Me on them and are red.

Black “Pleasure”/Bondage Tape

I absolutely love Bondage Tape. This is actually my third roll of it, I’ve had another roll of black and currently have a roll of red in addition to this roll of black from PinkCherry. Bondage Tape is both discreet and extremely easy to use, so if you accidentally leave the roll out where others can see all they would see is a roll of black tape, not a bondage item.

Bondage Tape isn’t sticky to anything but itself, so you don’t have to worry about hair being pulled out or skin being irritated. However, it does stick to itself very easily, so it’s great for any quick bondage, though you should be sure to wrap it around multiple times as just once isn’t enough.

It’s also great for impromptu gags, especially panty gags or something similar, you can wrap it around the head easily to secure a gag and not have to worry about hair getting ripped out since it sticks to itself and not anything else.

Pleasure Masks

Last but not least, the Pleasure Masks, or blindfolds, are a really great deal. They are made of rather light fabric so they, again, aren’t heavy-duty but they definitely serve their purpose.

They do have a bit of fabric that actually goes over the bridge of the nose to keep light out, so the sliver of light that blindfolds often will let through is nonexistent with these if positioned correctly. This is wonderful because it creates complete sensory deprivation instead of partial and can help to but the bottom in the right mindset faster.

Since you get two to the pack you can color coordinate them to outfits, rope, or other bondage items if you like, or if you end up losing one of them you always have the other to use, which is handy if you often misplace things like I do.

Overall each of these items are a great deal at under $15 a piece. They are all sturdy, well-made, and easy to use while also being affordable. Much thanks to PinkCherry.Com for sending me these items, and duplicates of each of these items so I can give them away to you, my readers! Keep your eye out for the contest coming soon on Pleasurists and will be cross-posted here too.

Despite loving restraints I really don’t own that many of them. Sure, I have the Under the Bed Restraints, a little bit of rope, and plushy gear wrist cuffs but you’ll notice one important ingredient is missing from all of bondage devices: leather!

When looking through the vast amounts of BDSM and Fetish Toys on SexToy.Com I was drawn to their handcuffs and legcuffs section. With such a wide selection it was difficult to choose a set, but the Axovus Ankle Cuffs (and matching Wrist Cuffs) called out to me.

First of all, these babies are huge! They’re three inches wide, just over a quarter of an inch thick (about 5/16ths of an inch according to my tape measure), and fit a five to eleven inch ankle.

Because of thier size so they are best used as ankle cuffs and not wrist cuffs (some are interchangeable, these not so much). Even if you tighten them well on the wrists they are still somewhat easy to slip out of, so that’s where their matching Wrist Cuffs come in handy.

The Axovus Ankle Cuffs are wonderful for what they are made for: ankles. These are lined with neoprene which is then lined with soft fabric to make it extra cushy and very soft on the inside so they’re fabulous to wear for long periods of time. They have high quality leather on the outside as well. The cuffs are sturdy and very obviously well-made and made to take a lot of stress, so you can wiggle and resist to your hearts content!

Each cuff has a connected D-ring and come with three connectors: two “spring snaps” that I always call carabiner clips, and one double snap lock which has connectors on either side. You can attach them to each other using the connectors that come with them or connect them to anywhere else that they can be clipped to.

I used the ankle cuffs along with my Under the Bed Restraint System and they were fantastic! The Under the Bed Restraints come with thin velcro-attaching cuffs that are great in and of themselves, but they’re hardly heavy or leather, so these are a great way to make the Under the Bed Restraint System a little more… hardcore, for lack of a better word.

If you’re looking for nice comfortable high quality leather ankle cuffs, I highly recommend these lined Axovus ankle cuffs!

Thanks to SexToy.Com for the ankle cuffs! Find the Axovus ankle cuffs, other BDSM and Fetish Toys, and lots of other sex toys at SexToy.Com!

Despite absolutely loving rope bondage I really have only owned one bondage book before now, The Erotic Bondage Handbook, which isn’t exactly for beginners. It has great information within it, but assumes you know knots and ties already, unlike Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes. Two Knotty Boys is a rope bondage instruction manual that is wonderful for beginners because it not only explains how to do different knots which you may or may not already know, and 37 different ties, but it also has pictures with captions detailing each knot and tie so that you can follow along easily.

I had absolutely no trouble in following the step-by-step instructions in Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes. It is extremely helpful for the visual learner, since it’s easy to duplicate what you see in the images.

The book is separated into six basic sections: Introduction, The Knots, Basic Bondage, Decorative Bondage, Dominance Bondage, and Sex Bondage. The introduction gives you some basic ideas about rope bondage safety and different types of rope so that you are fully aware of the tools you need and how to be safe before engaging in the techniques described in the later sections.

The Knots goes over a number of basic knots and weaves as well as more complex ones like the trinity (celtic) knot. I thought I would have trouble with some of them, but most of them were easy to duplicate on the first or second try due to the picture guides.

Basic Bondage includes a few basic restraints, a rope spreader bar (they call “basic wrap”), rope shackle, anke wrap, a harness, and a gorgeous “dragonfly sleeve” which is kind of like rope armbinders (though prettier). They are all, pretty much, exactly as it says: basic. These are ties that don’t really require huge amounts of experience or talent to pull off, they are simple and easy to follow, as is evidenced by the basic wrap I put on Onyx (see picture). However, just because they are basic doesn’t mean they are not pretty on the eye or useful.

Decorative Bondage is, well, filled with exactly that: bondage that is more for show than for functionality. It includes a corset, gauntlets (on the model on the front of the book), bra, panties, “good luck knot” harness (which is based around the “good luck knot” which is a five-sided knot–it is also on the model on the front of the book), and a bodysuit. Each compliments the wearer well, and while they are slightly more difficult than the basic bondage section they are also fairly easy once you get the knot techniques down. I made the panty which consists of a trinity knot (the celtic knot I mentioned earlier) and snake weave. It was very easy to make once I had the knot and weave down.

Dominance Bondage is more the type of bondage that we think of when wanting to tie someone up. It’s functional bondage that’s more intricate than the basic bondage but that can turn our willing victims into helpless slaves (or subs or bottoms as the case may be). It consists of three harnesses that don’t just decorate the body they also capture the wrists behind the back or neck, a hogtie, a bit gag, a bridle, and a “rope cage” which traps the body in a sort of rope bodysuit.

Sex Bondage is, well, exactly that. While there is a bit of overlap in Dominance Bondage and Sex Bondage, as much of Dominance Bondage could be used during sex, Sex Bondage focuses on affixing items to the rope wearer. It has a table top tie, two chair ties (kneeling facing the back of the chair, and sitting in the chair), and a rope strap-on harness. Each of these leave the wearer ready for sex, either open and unable to escape or with a new sex toy attached to fuck with.

All the ties are easy to do once you practice the knots a bit and with a willing and patient partner. I’ve only done a small amount of the ties that I hope and plan on doing, both on myself and on Onyx, but I feel more knowledgeable after reading through Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes than I was before, and possibly ready to take on the first bondage book I bought after getting these basics down.

The best part about Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes is that it is so accessible and easy beginners with little to no rope technique knowledge can pick it up and start rigging instantly. It makes fancy-looking ties and harnesses seem like a breeze to do. I would imagine it would be a great staple for intermediate or advanced riggers to have around the house as well, as it is much easier to follow than a text-only book.

With the holidays coming up, as well, it can make the perfect gift! You can get it for a loved one (or fuck buddy) as a hint that you would like to be tied up or tie them up. Or, if you know someone interested in rope bondage that hasn’t really given it a try it is the perfect book for them as well! As a gift or for yourself Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes is a wonderful book with useful ties for all.

Onyx and I have only used this a few times, though I have enjoyed it when we have. We have yet to use it on him, however, which would be an interesting experience. We do very little leash play or puppy play regularly, but I’ve always enjoyed the idea of it, and so I was intrigued when I saw it in the VibeReview website and wanted to try it out. How does one review a leather leash? Something I’ve been pondering for a while, and now you see the result:

Leashes are a bit of a staple of a BDSM toybox, they’re fun, easy and versatile and are able to create a clear definition of who is Dominant and who is submissive without too much effort. In short, they’re pretty great. They are great for keeping someone close, and can easily be incorporated into any sort of puppy play, or simply collar and lead play, both of which are pretty common.

I think the best quality of The Leather Leash from VibeReview is the thick quality leather that it is made of. Sometimes leather products, even sometimes expensive ones, don’t feel very good quality, but this one does. You can be sure that it won’t break easily from any tugging or pulling done to it.

It has a clip on one end that is easily attached to just about anything with a wide enough hole for it: collars, cuffs, nipple rings, nipple clamp chains, etc. It can be wrapped around and attached to itself, as well, making for a impromptu restraints. Your imagination can go wild at the versatility of this simple item.

The leash itself is only about four feet long, which is shorter than a lot of other leashes you can purchase I’m told, which could be a plus or a minus depending on what you’re wanting to use it for. Personally, I think that shorter is better, it means that the bottom has less room to maneuver, and also it’s a bit more intimate (though all leash play is definitely intimate). It’s a good signifier of the start of a scene as well.

Overall I’ve really enjoyed playing with The Leather Leash and look forward to much more playtime with it ahead. It’s good quality that will last for quite some time, especially if the leather is taken care of as well. If you’re looking for a good solid leash, I’d highly recommend it.

Remember: the affiliate proceeds from any toys you buy through my affiliate link will be donated x2 to The Butterfly Temptress Cancer Fund! Buying sex toys never felt so good.

How do I start a review of a book which speaks to me in such personal and intimate ways, beyond being about sex? How do I begin to describe the ways this book has clicked with me? I guess by answering those questions.

The brilliance of the book is that it delves into theory while still having an element of smut in it, mixing the two together in a true Carol Queen-esque way, because in some ways it’s impossible to seperate the smut from the theory and the theory from the smut. The first book I read of Carol Queen’s was Real Live Nude Girl back nearly four years ago when I was still living in Oregon.

I fell in love with her then, realizing how similar we were, wanting to become like her, to explore my own sexuality and look at it through the lens of theory. She was my inspiration for nearly all that I do now, and all I’m working toward including San Francisco and The Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality.

I found Leather Daddy and the Femme by Carol Queen to be not only wonderful hot get-your-genitals-stirring smut but also an interesting look at gender identities and identity politics. It starts off with the meeting of Miranda/Randy and Jack, then follows their relationship as it progresses, adding in a third partner, Demetrius, and playing with others as well. It is a wonderful queer genderfucking depiction of a gay leather daddy and his boy/femme and the creation of a family.

I found that the identities and relationships within The Leather Daddy and the Femme were some of the closest depictions to what I consider perfect. This wouldn’t be true for everyone, of course, not everyone would have such a personal reaction to the book, dreaming of being in an open and poly-committed relationship or having two different but equal genders that are easy to step into. I found myself identifying in some way with all of the characters and realizing that my dream situation is one very similar to what Jack, Miranda, and Demetrius have, with slight modifications of course.

In some ways the situation in the book is similar to my own, it emphasizes that queerness isn’t restricted to same sex relationships, that there are more ways for males and females to interact sexually and romantically than within a heterosexual model. Something I’ve thought was true for years, but that is difficult for me to describe.

The biggest thing that Leather Daddy and the Femme did for me, I think, was make me think about my own identity, my own desire for a chosen family (as opposed to born family), my desire for multiple lovers, for queer sex, for my own embracing of my multigendered self. It opened me up to looking at my own gender and sexual identity paths, how I got here and where I want to go from here. Oh, and it also made me wet.

I could probably go on for pages about exactly how it touched me, about what part of which characters I would like to inhabit, what I have thought of due to the book, how it has changed my perceptions and desires… but those things are all for posts previous and to come. Instead, I’d love if you have read it for you to give your reaction to the book in the comments.